As the school year draws to an end and the holiday season approaches, the University of the Western Cape psychologist and Head of Therapeutic Services, Rone Gerber, has shared expert insights into how parents can help children flourish during the holidays.
“Routines are vital for children,” said Ms Gerber. “When holidays arrive, it’s tempting to let all the rules fly out the window, but that can disrupt their sense of security. You can relax the schedule a bit — bedtime an hour later or skipping the occasional bath — but try to maintain a rhythm.”
She said it was important to keep in mind that it is a holiday and start to slightly bend the rules.
“Play is essential — swimming, running, or building sandcastles at the beach. Most children love outdoor activities, and it’s important to give them the freedom to play in a way that energises them,” Ms Gerber said.
She stressed the importance of spending time together.
“Most children don’t mind what you are doing, as long as you do it with them. Whether it’s baking cookies or wrestling on the carpet, your attention is priceless. In these moments, they recover from the pressures of the school year.”
The holidays offer a unique opportunity to instil values of generosity as well. Gerber suggests: “Involve children in giving back. Ask them, ‘Which of your toys can we donate?’ or let them help an elderly neighbour clean their garden. These acts of kindness build self-esteem and a sense of worth.”
She further advised parents to lead by example by baking something together with the child and taking it to someone in need.
“These small actions open the door to meaningful conversations and expand their understanding of the world.”
Gerber said this advice is appropriate for children aged 7 to 12 and that a different approach should be applied to children 12 and older. Adolescents are forming their identities and crave independence, but they still need their parents’ attention, “even if they won’t admit it”.
With adolescents, she said: “Set clear rules, but allow room for negotiation. Reward trustworthiness with greater freedom and tighten boundaries when necessary. It’s a constant balance, but it helps them develop responsibility and critical thinking.”
The last and fourth term for all public schools end on Friday December 13.
